Jessica (dancinpumkin) wrote,
Jessica
dancinpumkin

"I used to be apathetic, but now i just don't care."


Red: 8/100 Blue: 13/100 White: 13/100 Yellow: 11/100
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Take the Color Code Test
by Dano

BLUES:
The do-gooders


Life cannot bestow on anyone
a more gratifying reward
than the sincere appreciation
and trust of a Blue friend.



Blues Are Motivated by Altruism
Blues love to do nice things for others. They look for opportunities to give up something in order to bring another person happiness. Selflessness rather than selfishness is their guiding philosophy. Many Blues are uncomfortable doing things solely for themselves. They hold doors open for people, offer rides when someone's car breaks down, contribute to charities, even devote their entire lives to helping others.

Blues Seek Intimacy
More than anything else, Blues want to love and be loved. A true Blue will sacrifice a successful career to improve an important relationship. Once considered solely a female characteristic, this nurturing is more accurately understood as a Blue personality trait.

Blues Crave Being Understood
Blues are gratified when they are listened to, when they feel understood and appreciated. They are notorious for revealing their inadequacies, because they value being known and understood so much. In the eyes of a Blue, being vulnerable is a small price to pay for the chance to connect emotionally. Blues may have their hearts broken more than most people, but they also spend much more time in love.

Blues Need to Be Remembered and Appreciated
With Blues, a simple pat on the back will not suffice. Blues expend such great effort in making the world a better place that sometimes they need to be told how wonderful they are. They need to be thanked and specifically remembered for their good deeds. They need sincere gratitude. They delight in being remembered on birthdays and other special days, especially if the remembrance is personal--a homemade anniversary card, a welcome home party, a special day that isn't on the calendar. Blues need tender loving care.

Blues Are Directed by a Strong Moral Conscience
Blues are motivated to behave in a proper, appropriate manner. They have a moral code that guides them in their decision making, their value judgments, even their leisure time. Blues enjoy being "good." Of all the personality colors, Blues come equipped with the strongest sense of integrity. A Blue would rather lose than cheat. Blues are trustworthy. Ethically, Blues are the people who should be in positions of power, but seldom are.



Blues are the most controlling personality.

They are fiercely connected to the lives they live

and often appear to be emotionally unstoppable,

as though on a mission from God.




Blue Strengths

AS AN INDIVIDUAL

Sees life as a serious endeavor.

Appreciates beauty and detail.

Has a strong aesthetic sense.

Stable and dependable (plowhorse versus racehorse.)

Sincere and emotionally deep.

Analytically oriented (concerned with why one behaves as he/she does.)

High achiever

Deep sense of purpose.


AS A COMMUNICATOR

Able to enjoy sensitive and deep conversation.

Strong skills in empathizing with others.

Remembers feelings and thoughts shared in conversation.

Willing to give conversations time to run their course.

Prefers small groups.


AS A GOAL SETTER

Highly disciplined.

Receptive to other suggestions.

Strong goal orientation.

Plans well and follows through superbly.


AS A CAREER PERSON

Excellent behind-the-scenes worker.

Respectful of employer because of employer's position.

Enjoys detail and schedules.

Receptive of creating thinking in others.

Gives more of self than required or expected.


AS A PARENT

Encourages academics and/or trade development in children.

Excellent trainer of skills (e.g., manners, study habits.)

Very observant.

Empathic & sensitive.

Sincerely loyal to children.

Excellent in long-term commitments.

Keeps home clean & cozy.

Sincerely seeks to understand children's behavior.

Self-sacrificing.


AS A CHILD

Proper & behaved.

Easily disciplined verbally.

Concerned about being a good family member.

Sensitive & concerned about other family members.

Loyal to parents and siblings regardless of quality of relationship.

Seeks learning opportunities.


AS A FRIEND

Loyal forever once friendship is established.

Genuine concern for other person's well-being.

Remembers special holidays and promotes celebrations.

Encouraging in times of trouble.

Willing to commit time to the relationship.


AS A COMMITTED COMPANION

Gives the relationship priority over other activities.

Values intimacy and places high priority on it.

Considers spouse first in decision making.

Responsible for making ongoing contribution to relationship.

Enjoys sharing intimacy and places high priority on it.





Blue Limitations
AS AN INDIVIDUAL


Highly emotional.

Smug & self-righteous.

Controlling and/or envious of others' success when too easily obtained.

Strong perfecting and performance orientation.

Verbally self-abusive.


AS A COMMUNICATOR

Has intensely held opinions on many issues.

Tends to lecture and overdiscuss issues.

Rigid with principles and unwilling to negotiate.

Fears risking self in conversation.

Argues primarily from emotional perspective.

Strong expectations for others to be sensitive & deep.

Expects others to read his or her mind & know his or her feelings.


AS A GOAL SETTER

Sets unrealistically high goals.

Easily discouraged when unsuccessful in accomplishments..

Easily frustrated by lack of team cooperation.

Expects others to understand his or her goals and make them a priority.



AS A CAREER PERSON

Feels others are not capable of doing things as well as he or she.

Craves security in career.

Feels inadequate with natural talents and creativity.

Shies away from public exposure and performance.

Establishes high and often unrealistic expectations for self and others.

Tends to overplan and overprepare.

Critical of others' work and of self.

Overextends self.


AS A PARENT

Blames children for being unappreciative of parenting efforts.

Can be moody and unpredictable.

Easily irritated by mistakes and shortcomings of others.

Usually loves with strings attached.

Tends to give heavy doses of guilt to children.

Lacks ability to relax.

Requires a purpose in order to play.

Controlling and overprotective of children.

Too precise and exact with expectations.

Feels a clean home is a high priority.

Accepts guilt feelings too easily and readily.

Not spontaneous with activities.

Frustrates children with unrealistic expectations.

Strong sense of right and wrong--badgers children if convinced they may be wrong.


AS A CHILD

Easily frustrated.

Feels guilty over minor concerns.

Moody and emotional (cries instead of facing issues rationally).

Feelings are easily hurt.

Martyr-like and complains about life.

Self-esteem is dependent on outside influences.

Has difficulty relaxing and often feels uncomfortable.

Withholds affection if angered (pouts).

Waits for parent to initiate ideas an then criticizes unacceptable suggestions.


AS A FRIEND

Highly insecure about other's acceptance and approval.

Feels rejected easily.

When depressed or depressive, feels it is friend's job to understand.

Can be revengeful and bitter if crossed or scarred emotionally.

Critical of friends' principles or activities if not similar.

Expects friends to maintain strong loyalty.

Wishes friends would communicate more often.

Rarely playful and spontaneous.


AS A COMMITTED COMPANION

Blames others for his or her unhappiness (if only you were more...").

Demands affection and intimacy.

Demands time and attention of partner.

Highly manipulative in seeking support or understanding.

Suspicious of others' motives (distrustful).

Unforgiving of past misunderstandings and wrongdoings.

Clings to companion too much.

Withholds feelings when frightened he or she may be rejected.




CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT BLUES

Teacher, Banker, Nurse, Homemaker, Clergy/Minister, Engineer, Psychotherapist, Accountant, Librarian, Computer Programmer, Politician, Journalist, Musician, Architect, Carpenter.




PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE BLUES

ABRAHAM LINCOLN: Renowned for his trademark of fairness, he always sought the most noble path that would benefit all parties, if possible. He sought truth as a guiding principle in his personal and professional relationships.

PRINCESS DIANA: Always dresses appropriately, she carried herself with dignity and class. Emotions ruled her life, and she rendered herself vulnerable to the general public, continually gaining sympathy and support for herself and her causes.

WALT DISNEY: A creative genius, he loved the process more than the bottom line and relished design and details.






BLUE NATIONS

United States
England
Denmark





How to Develop a Positive Connection with Blues

Do:

Emphasize their security in the relationship.
Be sensitive and soft-spoken in your approach.
Be sincere and genuine.
Behave appropriately and well mannered.
Limit their risk level.
Promote their creativity.
Appreciate them.
Allow ample time for them to gather their thoughts before expressing themselves.
Be loyal.
Do thorough analysis before making presentations.


Don't:

Make them feel guilty.
Be rude or abrupt.
Promote too much change.
Expect spontaneity.
Abandon them.
Expect them to bounce back easily or quickly from depression.
Demand perfection (they already expect too much from themselves.)
Push them too quickly into making decisions.
Expect them to forgive quickly when crossed.
Demand immediate action or quick verbal bantering.




Recommended Time-Management Tips for Blues

Thinks rationally rather than reactively when pressured. Emotionalism can create chaos and unnecessary distress.

Clearly state your limits when others impose deadlines on you.

Settle for less. Perfectionism often narrows your focus, causing you to ignore other important aspects of your life.

Don't set unrealistic expectations for yourself or others to the extent that everyone feels overwhelmed. Simply see goals as road markers rather than criteria for success.

Don't personalize your interactions with other people. Blues often suffer from feeling let down by others or from quitting because they let others down. Concentrate on the task at hand rather than becoming emotionally discouraged or critical.

See time management as a compromise rather than "all or nothing." If you fail to meet a deadline, learn to punt. It will free you to be more creative and less self-critical.

Realize that there are limits to what you can control. You cannot control other people.

Set a ten-minute time limit to worry about any topic in the day. When your time is up, so is your worrying. Get on with living in the present moment and doing what you can do rather than focusing on what is our of your control.

"If you love someone, set them free.
If they come back, they're yours;
if not, hunt them down and kill them!"
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